Deep down when a "chaser" is attracted to the "runner" it's because the chaser also has fears with intimacy and beliefs that they will be abandoned. Whatever we believe we attract to ourselves. The runner also fears being abandoned if he allows himself to be "seen". The "runner" creates a safe distance which prevents intimacy and although this upsets the "chaser" and triggers the abandonment and rejection wounds, they are both reflecting the same fears of being rejected and thus perfectly reflect each other.
Often there is a deeply subconscious fear within both the runner and the chaser to get too close. Subconsciously the chaser often acts in ways to try and create deeper intimacy but deep down they know the runner won't be able to handle it and so they overwhelm the runner and push them away. It may appear it's just the runner running, but the chaser, deep down, often knows the runner will run if they chase and yet they still chase. Subconsciously they are trying to trigger their own wounds of abandonment and rejection because the soul is wanting to heal these wounds and in order to do so they must be brought up to the surface to be recognised in the first place. To understand this phenomena better read my article Twin Flames: A Chaser is a Runner Too!
Many chasers have a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable partners because subconsciously they are still trying to heal this wound. But our soul is urging us to look more deeply at our own patterns and beliefs so we can heal the wound within ourselves. No one else can heal it for us, no one can fill in our voids - we must heal it within through our own self-love. When we love ourselves unconditionally we don't need anyone else's approval or validation that we are worthy of love and intimacy. We won't take it personally - we will see these experiences as a reflection of our own vibration we are sending out into the universe and manifesting back to ourselves. My eBook Twin Flame Reunion Manifestation is all about how our vibration either blocks reunion or supports it. It will help you to see why you have been attracting certain experiences and people into your life and how you can positively change your vibration to open up to reunion with your twin flame and thus assist your mirror (twin) to do the same.
Once you love yourself unconditionally there won't be any fears of intimacy blocking your reunion on the subconscious level. Love makes you aware of everything that is out of alignment with love so the first step is to always be loving, kind and compassionate with yourself.
Until next time, Love and Light to you,