(As ever, for ease of reading I will refer to the "chaser" as a female, but it could be reversed to be a male.)
Here are the top ways that chasers often push their twin flame away:
Expecting him to change
If you are expecting (or demanding) you twin flame to change you won't be coming across as very loving or understanding. It's okay to want the to grow if it's for their highest good, but it's not okay to expect them to change just to benefit you. If you are getting narky at him because he's disappointing you, then that's just a reflection of you and how you are expecting someone else to be responsible for your feelings.
Expectation and demands actually make people feel rejected. You are not accepting them for who they are. You are not being compassionate. If they are being abusive (which is not love AT ALL) then why would you even want to stay and wait for them to change? Love yourself enough to walk away from abuse.
Expecting him to make you happy
No-one is responsible for your happiness. Until you realise this, you will continue to look outside of yourself and be disappointed. The universe is actually going to repeat this disappointment for you until you get it!
If you are expecting your twin or anyone else to make you happy then you are just advertising yourself as a bottomless pit (which no one can fill except you). I'm sure you've even experienced this yourself, someone who is so unhappy within themselves and always pessimistic, leeching off you for a listening ear and dragging you down. These people tend to cling onto you for dear life, sucking the life out of you as they expect you to make them happy.
No one is attracted to a clingy person who is going to drain them of their own energy and life force. Everyone has their own problems - they don't need to shoulder other people's too. Anyone who has their sanity would run from this and so they should!
Making him responsible for your emotions
Just like happiness, no one is responsible for your reactions. Don't play the victim, only YOU can choose how you experience your world. If he's done something to disappoint you then it will be showing you something you need to heal within yourself. But again, if he's being abusive then it's just a reflection of him and you should run away from that yourself!
Making anyone other than yourself responsible for your emotions is giving away your power. If you continue to claim that other's dictate how you feel then you will always be like a leaf blowing around in the wind. Life will be a rollercoaster and you will always be feeling sick. Take back your power, take responsibility for yourself. Don't be lazy - pretending to yourself that he is causing you to feel this or that is just an excuse to distract you from doing your inner work.
Besides, if you are making him responsible for you then you are just setting him up for failure. He will see this a mile off and run for the hills! No one wants to open and allow themselves to be vulnerable around a ticking time bomb! You are just too unsafe to invest in.
You are unstable yourself yet are expect him to be stable
He's running scared and sometimes comes back but then disappears again. You are happy only as long as he plays ball or else you turn into a fire breathing dragon and burn him to death! When this happens, he is coming back to test the waters in the hopes that YOU have become more stable. If you are unstable, then he will be too. He will follow your lead. He can only reflect back to you that which you truly are.
How can he build a house with you on sand? He will sink in it, he will get lost in all the drama and will suffocate. Any same person wouldn't even attempt it. He runs as long as he knows your love is only conditional. He's running because he knows that the slightest little slip up from him he will be toast!
You are holding onto and expecting old 3D paradigms to fit into your connection
You've heard it before. Twins flames are about the soul and the 5D and cannot be pushed into a 3D relationship. But have you really taken the time to fully understand this? Is there a part of you (ego) that is still trying to make out this isn't important or that you can be the exception to the rule? If so, you are pushing your twin flame away because the energy simply cannot be restricted in such a limiting way. The only way to be free of this restriction is to get away from you trying to force something impossible.
If you are doing this then you are actually hurting your twin flame by trying to squeeze them into a tight space. This only causes claustrophobia and the feeling of wanting to escape.
This connection is for your soul's highest good, not about shacking up in the physical just so you can feel whole and complete. No, you must achieve this within yourself and only THEN a physical relationship might be a possibility. Wholeness and joy are not outside of yourself or in the future. Only the now truly exists and you are ONE with your love and wholeness and joy RIGHT NOW. It's within you right now. It's just locked away behind ego illusions of being separated from it all. Your job is to unlock the doors of illusion that keep you stuck in the past and future and ground yourself in the present again. Then your natural soul qualities will shine through and dissolve all barriers in it's way. You are a sun that is trapped behind ego clouds. Your job is to blow away your own clouds so your sun can shine brightly and clearly. This inner sunshine is what breathes life to your twin flame connection. The clouds only block it.
A physical relationship won't solve all your problems. This is what this connection is actually here to teach you. You must solve all your own problems so that union is realised. Until you understand this and really do the work, the clouds of illusion will continue to rain on your parade.
He's running because the universe is trying to tell you that he isn't your twin flame after all
In some cases, the reason this person is trying to run out of your life is because they aren't actually a twin flame but are another form of connection who has come into your life for lessons and growth. There will be some major differences between a true twin flame connection and a karmic or false twin connection. A true twin flame connection will uplift you, bring feelings of magic, optimism and abundance into your life. You will feel happier even if you are not physically together.
With a karmic connection or false twin, you will be left feeling anxious, devastated, abused, misunderstood, like there's a gaping hole within you, heartbroken. Your vibrations will lower and you will feel energetically drained.
You need to be completely honest with yourself because if you aren't you will only be going in circles trying to deny your truth and this will never lead to a twin flame reunion. Instead you will be putting your life on hold and keeping your vibrations low. There truly is no reason to hold onto a draining connection which is not for your highest good.
Is this connection helping you grow in a positive way or keeping you stuck and feeling like your life is on hold?
You are expecting him to express all his emotions just like you do
Women as a whole have been actively supported and persuaded to express their feelings and experience their life through emotion. Emotions are second nature to us and we are experts in this field. There's always another female to share our problems with, express our worries to and unload our stresses on to feel better. Men don't have this. They have been taught to repress emotions all their life. They've been taught to control their emotions by denying them. This has been the norm for them. So it should be obvious that when intense emotions come up, especially in a twin flame connection, they aren't going to know what to do with them or how to make sense of them. They will likely do the only thing they have been taught to do, the only thing that makes sense to them - deny them!
Men are overwhelmed very easily by emotions because of this. Because they tend to bottle everything up, they actually feel emotions even more intensely than us ladies when they do come out. It's unknown territory for them. They've not had anyone to support them in their emotions so they will only do what feels natural and that is to retreat.
Many chaser twins make the mistake of thinking that men can or should process and express their emotions in the same way their fellow females do. Many chasers unload all their emotions onto the male who is already struggling to process his own emotions. He will run because he simply does not know any other way.
BUT, men are secretly wanting to find an understanding and patient lady to help them discover this repressed part of themselves. In order to truly connect with themselves, they know deep down that they must delve into their emotions. But any lady who pushes for deeper sharing, for him to be more vulnerable, for him to express his feelings in the same way that she does is only going to make him feel he can't trust you. You are expecting more than he can give in the beginning. A man needs to SLOWLY work towards expressing his emotions more.
Men are afraid that if he opens up even jut a little, then a woman will jump straight in and expect more and more sharing or she will immediately dump a ton of her own emotions and expectations upon him. This is too much, too soon and he will have experienced this many times with other women. This is why he sees women as unsafe and dangerous - they simply don't understand his needs and then expect more than he can give and then blame him when he "fails". This is rejection. This will make him run.
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