Is your twin flame already married or living with a partner? Are you the single one, waiting for them to step into their truth and stop living a lie? Many twin flames find themselves in this situation. Some of the married twins do genuinely want to leave the marriage and begin to live their truth and some actively work towards those intentions. Others however, are too fearful so always say they will leave but their actions never back up their words. And then there are some who never truly intend to leave the marriage and are leading you on so they can have their cake and eat it. It can be hard to see clearly which category your married twin falls into when you are in the thick of things.
My main advice would be to listen to your gut. Can you truly see your twin leaving that relationship? Is it all just talk? Will they ever have the courage to step into their truth? How long have you been waiting? Sadly, the longer you have been waiting, the less likely they will leave in many cases. Do you trust him or are you kidding yourself that he will live his truth? Is he pulling the wool over your eyes? A true twin flame would genuinely want to live their truth and you will just know deep down.
However, there is the exception of a twin who stays in the marriage simply because they still don't fully understand your twin flame connection and that they are even being urged to follow their truth. They still haven't distinguished between ego and soul truth yet, so feel they "should" stay in the marriage as that is what society expects. This is often when they are very hot and cold with you, not knowing whether to follow the head or heart.
But my advice to you would be to create healthy boundaries for yourself. And yes that means stop sleeping with your twin flame when there is no physical commitment from him! If you are giving yourself completely to your twin, in many cases you will be giving them the easy option of avoiding facing their fears and breaking free from the marriage, but also feeling their soul truth with you. This can enable them to live in the limbo of both worlds and never truly having the incentive to do things properly.
What message are you sending out if you are freely giving your twin flame everything and they aren't giving you everything in return? It shows you do not value or respect yourself so he won't either. He will see it as you are willing to sacrifice your own needs because you are desperate for him even though he is not treating you right. The worst part is many twin flames report he disappears immediately after you were intimate with him and only returns when he wants sexual intimacy again.
Twin flame connections are primarily about teaching you how to love yourself. But if you are being a martyr then you are missing the point and a true reunion will never happen as long as you continue this way. Many say they fear that if they pull away then that will be the end of the connection. Well, doesn't that say a lot? Why would you even want to be with someone if it always had to be you holding it together? If it falls apart as soon as you step back and create a balance, then it is likely this person isn't your twin flame after all.
Another instance is when a married twin actually told you he won't be leaving his marriage but you stay, holding onto hope that he will change his mind. Why would he have to if you are already giving him everything he wants? If a guy is telling you this, then you need to take him seriously.
Are you waiting for him to complete you? Are you constantly suffering and not taking responsibility for your own wholeness and happiness? This is no way to go about a twin flame reunion. It means you are missing the lessons that this time of separation is presenting you with.
In some cases, a married twin flame truly does need your support. But this doesn't mean having no boundaries for yourself or sacrificing yourself in the hopes of having him commit to you eventually in return.
Are you both learning and growing in this stage or not?
What does your gut say?
Is your focus mostly on soul growth or physical relationship?
Are you waiting for your life to begin, always concentrating on the future rather than living in the now? If you truly want to unite, then you have to make your own life begin right now, not wait or put yourself on hold in any way. Putting yourself on hold means halting your soul growth which is actually delaying a possible reunion further.
There are ways you can interact with your twin flame in healthy ways where you are loving yourself and your twin is reflecting that back to you. It's time to truly look at yourself and your situation and determine if you need to make any changes.
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