In order to align energetically with your twin flame for reunion to occur, you need to firstly realign with your natural soul state. This means putting ego illusions aside to make way for your soul to shine through. You need to be the lighthouse that guides your twin flame home.
Love Yourself and Your Twin
This may sound simple and obvious but I want to go a little deeper than what is normally discussed on this topic. What do I mean by truly loving yourself? I mean, you must recognise that ego is a part of you that must be loved. You aren’t bad or a failure because you have fears and neither is your twin flame. Fear is what we agreed to incarnate into. It is a great tool for spiritual growth. Through learning to have faith, we overcome our fears and grow stronger. This is a process that all twin flames go through.
Some twin flames struggle more than others with fear, usually due to upbringing (whether they felt supported or not as a child) and also past life bleed through. What do I mean by bleed through? For example, a soul that has mostly incarnated as a male will likely have gone through many lifetimes of war, hunting for survival, shutting off emotions for survival, being taught that being emotional is a weakness etc. This often leaves men with a deep instinct to NOT be too emotional as they subconsciously associate being vulnerable emotionally to mean they could be attacked any minute because of being distracted by emotions. Men could not be expected to kill for survival and also be very emotional. A very emotional man may have hesitated and felt guilty killing for survival for example, so they were discouraged from letting emotions surface too much.
Many female twins will have gone through some lifetimes as a male too and will have learned other instincts of their own through the lifetimes. Sometimes you may think that your twin flame should just “get over it” and “man up” but the truth is these issues run so much deeper than we can ever imagine. That is not to say that there is no hope. Men (and some women) need to know that you have created a safe sanctuary where they can open up and be vulnerable emotionally and they won’t be attacked or taken advantage of in any way. This cannot be simply achieved by making verbal promises. It must be demonstrated time and time again with your actions. This means that the second your twin opens up and dares to be vulnerable, you don’t jump down their throat demanding they open up to you completely or tell you everything. Also, you must prove to him that when he opens up you won’t dump a huge amount of intense emotions on him that he won’t be able to handle. Because men have been taught to repress their emotions their whole life, they won’t know how to handle intense ones straight away. It will take time for them to open up, process their emotions and finally be able to express them. They need to know they can trust you to simply be there and listen when they open up. This needs to be a slow and steady process.
This takes an incredible amount of patience, especially if you have been assuming that your male (sometimes female) twin can open up and express themselves in the same way you can. Often twin’s mistakenly assume the runner twin flame is purposely holding back expressing themselves, when in reality they are just doing what they have been taught and comes instinctively.
Frustration is not something you “should” be bigger than because you are spiritual. This is a natural human emotion. To truly love ourselves and let love FLOW so we can raise our vibrations, we must accept ourselves as the soul and human truth that we are. Ego will play up at times and we need to love it because that’s all it’s looking for – love and attention, to be acknowledged. Just like a neglected child, it will play up until you give it the love and attention it needs and only then it will behave.
We are perfect divine creations of God and that means that NOTHING is wrong with us ever. Supposed negative traits are simply aspects of ourselves we are working through to eventually strengthen ourselves further and find clarity from. Frustration should not be repressed but also should not be projected onto others in counterproductive ways (in my opinion). It’s okay to feel frustration within ourselves and maybe even say a few expletives in our heads, but not to project it onto another because we think they should be doing something different just to make us happy.
Joy & Wholeness
These two go hand in hand. In order to be whole we need to be joyful. In order to be joyful, we need to be whole. Joy really does speed up our vibration and raises them to higher levels because it is a natural remedy to fear. If you are feeling overly fearful, try to watch something funny or do something that brings you joy. Can you feel how transformative joy is? How joy puts you at ease? How joy and laughter cure fear? Do whatever it takes to be as joyful and amused as possible. A light-hearted approach helps your highest good manifest much faster, because joy is the natural state of the soul.
To speed up reunion we need to have faith and trust that the universe is taking care of what is for our highest good. Your guides are working hard behind the seems to set up situations and life paths for you to tread that will be for your highest good. This means you need to let go of trying to control things and instead FLOW with life. Whatever happens will be for your highest good even if you can’t see it at that time. Even supposed negative situations occur to help you grow in some way. EVERYTHING has a silver lining – look for it!
I hope you have found these tips helpful!
Watch this space for more tips and advice coming in the next few days.
~Love and Light~