What is a twin flame runner?
A twin flame runner is someone who is afraid of looking into their true self. They are likely holding onto a lot of emotional pain from their past and felt that from a young age they had to change themselves or wear masks in order to feel accepted by family.
When the twin flame enters their life, they are a reflection of their TRUE self, their soul and this is very scary to the twin flame runner because they have forgotten their true self. Meeting the twin flame exposes the real them, the soul they learned to hide and repress and reject in order to feel acceptable.
Meeting the twin flame makes the twin become aware of their true selves they have been running from and it fills them with great pain because they still mistakenly believe that their true self is not good enough, is bad or unlovable.
A twin flame runner is therefore sure that you will reject their true self if they allow you too close, but really it is just a reflection of how they are rejecting their own true self. You see, it's not personal when a twin flame runs away from you and the connection because really they are running from their true self and the pain they have learned to associate with their true self.
The role of a twin flame connection is to get both the divine masculine and divine feminine counterparts to rediscover their true selves that they have been running from all their lives and learn to love and accept their true selves. It is a journey of learning to recognise and embrace the divinity that we are, God's perfect vision with all our imperfections.
The journey of twin flames is about learning to stop running and start embracing ourselves, connecting with ourselves and opening ourselves up to true intimacy. This is what sets us free. This is what anchors true love of the higher realms down to this planet to raise the Earth's vibration.
Twin flames are from other dimensions. They come here because they know they have what it takes (love) to be able to love themselves enough to break through the illusions of this 3D plane and become shining examples of what true love is.
Twin flames, in truth, are already much more emotionally and spiritually mature than most on this planet. Even when your twin flame appears to be a runner, he is still already graduated from this planet long ago, it's just a case of him remember his truth, waking up from the amnesia of this Earthly body.
In general (not always) it is harder for men to awaken to their soul truth and it is often up to the female twin to assist them in their reconnection with their true self. Runner twin flames are in a lot of pain and are very repressed - they don't know how to open their hearts because they feel unworthy of being their true selves. This means their intuition is also cut off and it takes a patient and truly unconditional female twin flame to really help the masculine reconnect with himself.
The female must truly be unconditional and this means she will need to come from a place of inner joy, security and wholeness. If she is looking to the male to complete her or fill in her voids, then it won't work - he will keep running and it's because it will be a reflection of her running from her own responsibilities for herself.
Reunion always starts from and inner wholeness within, on both sides. Twin flames often go through the runner stage when their body is trying to download the new template of love. It takes time - the body needs to adjust slowly for it's own safety.
Try not to blame your twin flame from running because you are taking it personally. It is not personal, and often he has grown up with no one to be able to talk to about deep emotions, so it's foreign to him at first, and scary because men in general are ridiculed or criticised if they embrace the NATURAL emotional side. Therefore too much emotion is see as a threat. They've been conditioned to run from deep emotion, true love.
But all hope is not lost! In fact, most men, deep down in their subconscious are desperately yearning for the freedom to embrace their emotional side, express their feelings, break out of the limitations that have been placed on their shoulders all their lifetimes through a society that repressed the divine masculine.
Deep down, runner twin flames are searching for the one who can be patient, hold their hand and show them the way. Consciously they won't realise it at first and they will fight it because that's what they have been conditioned to do, but eventually, if you let them SEE through your actions (not just tell them) that they can trust you, that you won't dump a load of expectations on their already burdened shoulders, they will slowly open up, slowly begin to taste the freedom of their soul expression.
I have heaps more to say about this and how to really help yourself and the divine masculine come into balance, harmony and true reunion in my E-Book Twin Flame Reunion Mastery if you wish to find out more and step in the right direction for deeper intimacy and a renewal of the connection.
Trust in the journey, trust in yourself and trust in your twin flame.