You may have read a lot of things about Twin Flames and what this concept really means. However, few of us know that Twin Flames are spiritual partners first and foremost, while the romantic aspect is just the cherry on top. Indeed, the pull Twins feel towards each other is out of this world and makes a good solid ground for a romantic relationship. But at its base, such a connection is all about the soul.
Out of the many obstacles that Twins encounter we cannot help but mention the struggles of the ego. Although Twin Flames are highly spiritual beings, they are also humans having a life on Earth. Each of them struggles with their own personal issues, past hurts, and even past life traumatic events. The pair's spiritual and human journey is by no means easy. When the Twin Flame ego surfaces, it can break down and ruin things for the pair for an extended period of time.
In fact, the Twin Flame shadow self is often the cause for their physical separation. Every person has a shadow self that is not shown to the world. Psychiatrist Carl Jung speaks about the shadow self in his work. This aspect of a person's psyche is often the most difficult to face and integrate. Truth is ego has no place in a Twin Flame relationship. You will need to learn how to transcend ego and your shadow self before getting a chance to reunite with your Twin.
The first stage of a Twin Flame encounter is blissful. You will feel like you are walking on clouds and everything seems perfect. The intensity of this stage is meant to prepare you for what it is to come next: facing and overcoming your ego and darkest fears. After a few months of perfect balance and harmony with your Twin, you will notice the shadow self starting to emerge. Disagreements often take place, and at times the intensity may seem like too much to take. In a regular or soul mate relationship, the couple finds it easy to let go of disagreements and come to a peaceful resolution. However, this is not the case with Twin Flames.
The purging stage in a Twin Flame connection is soul shattering. That is when your shadow self makes an appearance and tries to destroy things between the two of you. Doubts, extreme fears, jealousy and even rage are common during this phase. At times you might even feel your Twin is your enemy and not the other half of your soul. There are a few things you can do when forced to face your shadow self. You can visit a shamanic healer who will clear and balance your chakras, or even try conventional therapy. Various meditation techniques are also helpful in managing the intense symptoms caused by an unleashed ego.
During this stage, you will have to learn how to protect your emotions and be gentle with yourself. If you and your Twin are separated, do not lash out at them or try to chase them. They are working through their own issues, and it is better if you focus on your own. You may feel like blaming your Twin Flame for everything that happened to you, but try to hold back the overwhelming emotions and work towards healing the core issues.
The ego is all about power and control. You may even experience a need to control the outcome of the relationship and the reactions of your beloved. Unfortunately this will only cause your separation to last longer. Twin Flames are true mirrors of each other. Your Twin may come from a different background, even have a different lifestyle and preferences, but you are the same at the core. How you choose to react to him or her is the way you truly feel about yourself. How long it takes until you manage to overcome your fears is only up to you. You will need to face your deepest insecurities, even the ones you are not aware of.
One of the insecurities most often encountered in a Twin relationship is the fear of showing yourself as you truly are. Nothing can remain hidden in darkness in a Twin Flame connection. There are many times when we put on a face we show to the world and even to our partner, in order to be liked or loved. You will soon notice this does not work well with your Twin. They will see right through it and mirror everything back at you, as to make you aware of what you need to work on. At times, this may drive you to the brink of insanity.
When you first come together with your Twin, everything will seem effortless. You will connect with them on a level that you have never experienced before. You may not have many disagreements regarding material possessions or notice any incompatibilities. However all the baggage you carry from past relationships, how you truly feel about your parents and yourself will be unveiled.
Such a deep soul bond comes with a few issues. While you intrinsically know your beloved Twin Flame feels the same way about you, you may not always feel that to be true. He or she may throw back at you everything you need to work on. If you have abandonment issues, you may suddenly start fearing your Twin wants to leave you. This creates an internal chaos and imbalance. Those deep issues cannot be healed by your Twin, but only yourself. Avoid placing your focus on what you think your spiritual partner does or does not do right. Do not pick up fights with them in an attempt to satisfy your ego needs. This only makes things worse and will drive you apart on a physical level.
The need for power and control in all aspects of your relationship with your Twin may become an issue. The ego has a need for drama on a psychological level, so you may find yourself wanting to apply the same old relationship rules to this one. The truth is, you simply cannot control how your Twin feels or reacts. The behaviors you see in them that make you uncomfortable and angry are the very same things you hate about yourself. Do not feel scared to face yourself and learn how to love yourself for the being you truly are. No human is perfect. Even if your soul is old and has lived through many lifetimes, your human self still needs to learn how to overcome fears and doubts. All these things take time, patience, and love. Take the time to pay attention and nurture yourself in order to become the best you that you can possibly be. Keep your heart open and be compassionate.
Twin Flame pairs are meant to teach unconditional love and their mission is not an easy one. If you face your ego and shadow self without fear, things will fall into place as everything unfolds just the way it is supposed to be. Meeting your Twin Flame in this lifetime gives you the amazing opportunity to shine as the divine being that you really are. Believe in yourself and your love.