We've all been through stages of judging our twin flame for doing this, that or the other "wrong". What seems so obvious to us, is seemingly completely unseen to our twin flames at times. And they must feel that way about us too at times! I know some of you will be stuck right now in pain, confusion, frustration and bitterness. We all go through it - it's a stage. But I want to offer you a different perspective on the struggles that twin flames go through.
As souls, we choose to incarnate into human bodies on the planet in order to grow through the ego. Yes, the ego is a tool for growth. We have come here to grow. Growth is often painful. Growth shatters previous patterns and preconceptions of what we *think* is truth, what we think is love. Pain IS love. Without pain, we could not grow and learn and see ways we need to love ourselves more. Pain is the tool to shatter the barriers we have build that stop us from loving ourselves.
But I want to take this a step further. You may see your twin flame going in circles, running from their truth, dating other women, drinking, taking drugs, moving to a different county and basically doing anything and everything they can to avoid facing themselves. We may think "why are you doing this when you could be so happy if you just accept yourself and follow your truth." But we forget how difficult it is, or if we think it's easy, then we are in denial about what we need to heal within ourselves.
We have all been through tremendous growth. Look back to your younger years. Did you just click your fingers and come to this level of awakening you are at now? Or did it take a long time, a slow process where you gained more and more knowledge, often through so-called "mistakes". Can you look back and see how "blind" you were? Can you see it was an intended process? Mistakes aren't mistakes at all, they all lead to the same destination of truth. They are the universe's gift to help you eventually see how you were not loving yourself. This is what your supposed "runner" twin flame is going through right now - the lessons, the karma, the awakening. It's not going to be pretty. In many cases it's actually going to be tougher on them to feel stuck in the dark and desperately trying to find a way out, not knowing what to do, where to go or how to feel.
You actually want your twin flame to go through this so they can grow as they are intended to. Don't fight it. Don't try to mother them and tell them all the answers - it won't work! The reason you are telling them the answers and they are still ignoring you and going in circles is because they need to actually LIVE it to learn it.
So why do you want your twin flame to go through these difficulties? Why do you want them to be at this place where they aren't ready to unite with you? Because this is helping them grow. This is helping them to love themselves more and as you are one, it means this is your twin working to love you more. Your twin is helping you to love yourself more through this process because he is you. What he heals and learns and grows from will benefit you too as you are one and vice versa. Don't fight this or blame him - he's going through this to increase your twin flame bond's capacity for deeper love.
It may feel like the universe is being cruel or unfair because you want everything to be blissful right now, but the universe knows what it's doing. It's loving you through only giving you your highest good. There's no point rushing into a union if there's a chance that waiting longer would make the union so much more powerful.
Think about it. This is all happening to help you! The universe is not tricking you or neglecting you or saying you aren’t good enough. The universe is assisting you to both step into love as much as possible.